Domestic violence is one of the most common forms of abuse that happens in modern society. If you or a friend is a victim of abuse, you should read this article to learn how to deal with domestic violence and safeguard yourself.
Domestic violence is the type of violence performed by your partner when you are in a relationship. Partners do different forms of abuse such as physical, emotional, economic, and psychological, to make sure you stay under their control. And in some cases, this violence can be so brutal that it can take the life of the victim.
What to do when domestic abuse happens?
Domestic violence can happen to anyone. So, it is particularly important to know how to deal with it. These are the steps you can follow:
- The first step, when dealing with domestic violence, is to keep yourself safe. Because your partner finds you, they might get violent with you. It is not possible for an abuser to change themselves suddenly for the better. So, safeguarding yourself is essential.
- Plan to escape from that situation, get everything you will need after you leave that place, and contact a friend/therapist/support group who can help you after you leave.
- Try to maintain a calm nature in front of your partner so that they never doubt you. And try to collect evidence so that you can use it to prove abuse to the authorities once you escape.
- Contact a person that you trust who can take care of you when you need it. Because most victims suffer from mental and physical abuse that makes them weak. They need someone that can help them and support them. Get medical help to improve your medical and physical condition.
- Contact a hotline for domestic violence. So that they can send some members of the community to investigate and help you. They can also give you shelter and safety. Until your partner is found guilty and gets punishment.
- If you are stuck in a situation where you know, your partner is going to abuse you. You can call 911 for emergency services.
- File a restraining order when you escape the domestic violence situation so that you can protect yourself.
How to leave safely?
You must make sure to keep yourself and your children safe. If domestic violence happens to you at home, try to find excuses to go out and ask for the help you need. You never have to do this alone. You can get help from your friends, family members, or by calling a hotline number.
You need to decide very carefully so that your abuser can’t doubt you and you can execute your plan smoothly. Leave the home quietly, without them knowing, and after you move out try to live in a place where you are safe from them. Try to stay at your trusted friend or family member’s home. Keep 911 on the speed dial and teach your kids how to dial that number in case of emergency. You can also take shelter in a group home.
Support groups and social workers not only help you with your short-term stay but also recommend long-term stay accommodations. Also, most social support groups and counselors give you services like legal advice, emotional and mental support, help with food and clothing, and security.
If your partner physically assaults you, and you are not in the position to escape, you should talk to emergency services or to the police. Try to call them when no one is around you or your abuser is sleeping. When they arrive, don’t fear your partner or their family members and tell the truth about what happens to you so that you and the law enforcement can take legal action against them.
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Steps to recovery
Being affected by domestic violence, many people are not able to recover from the trauma they have been through. Here are some steps that help you to recover faster from the trauma:
- Understand that it is not your fault. Many people start thinking that domestic violence happens because of their past mistakes but that’s not true because it’s the abuser thinking that doing domestic violence is his/her right to achieve his selfish ends. So, don’t take the blame.
- Try not to isolate yourself because the more you try to hide the pain and suffering you have been through the more you hurt yourself. Try to stay in touch with your friends and family and share your feelings, they will help you overcome this phase of life.
- In some cases, people need to visit counselors or therapists to take treatment to make themselves better. Because of mental and emotional abuse, you might develop mental problems like depression, anxiety, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), etc. You can also join a local community that treats patients who have gone through a trauma in life.
Domestic violence will always prevail until you take the necessary steps to stop it. So, don’t fear asking for help, you don’t need to do it alone. Save your life and take legal action against your abuser so that no one else can become the victim of domestic violence.
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