Did you know some of the warning signs of domestic violence are extremely easy to spot? If you didn’t, read this article to know those signs so that you can help to save the lives of the victims of domestic abuse.
Domestic abuse can be defined as violence performed by your partner (in the dating or domestic relationship) within the home to keep you under their control. By violence, they want to achieve their selfish ends and so abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, economic, or psychological.
Domestic violence can never be justified. Anyone can be the victim of this abuse no matter what gender, race, class, or religion they belong to. If you know the warning signs of domestic violence you might be able to help a victim of domestic abuse and save their lives.
Warning signs of domestic violence
Early warning signs of domestic violence depend on the types of violence a victim is being subjected to, including:
These are the signs of physical abuse (that consist of physical injuries and bruises).
- Dark circles, bruises under eyes or black eyes
- Bruises on other parts of the body especially the face, neck, arms, and legs
- Sprained wrists
- Broken bones especially of fingers, arms, or legs
- Unexplained pain
- Busted lips
- Red or purple marks on parts of the body
The victim might lie about the injuries, and the pain they are suffering. And in case the abuser is in front of them, they might feel fear and shake and might not be able to tell the truth. They start wearing clothes that hide the bruises and wear those clothes until the injuries heal. They also start to avoid people and gatherings so that they don’t have to answer any questions about the bruises and/or injuries.
If a person is suffering from domestic abuse that hurts them emotionally, you might notice these kinds of changes in them:
- They look serious and fearful most of the time
- While working they stay in anger and anxiety
- Low levels of self-esteem especially in front of elders or their partner
- Lack of interest in their favorite activity
- Lack of energy
- Crying a lot
- Seems sad, and tearful most of the time
- Self-harm or suicidal thoughts
The first change that you might notice in victims is their behavior change. This can include:
- A talkative person starting to stay quiet and calm
- Sleeping too much or way less than before
- Start relying on drugs or alcohol often
- Someone who loved their freedom in the past- without spouse’s permission are no longer allowed to go anywhere
- Start to isolate themselves
- Start avoiding events or activities they once enjoyed
- Changes in their appetite and eating habits (start eating less than before)
- Start isolating themselves at workplace, stop communicating or start staying quiet
- Stop meeting and talking to friends, and family members.
- They seem fearful whenever their partner is near them.
These can be the symptoms you might notice in a person you know very well. These symptoms are not only noticeable in the victim but also in their children too. They too start to live alone and in isolation.
Domestic abuse can be prevented if you come forward to help the victims. Because victims feel fearful and don’t want to speak against their abusers, and they are not able to think clearly about how to stop them. If someone they trust helps and tells them what to do to save themselves, they will find support and they will follow your advice.
If you notice any signs of domestic abuse/violence, ask them about it, and if they say no and look fearful, sad, or anxious at the same time-chances are, they are lying to you (because of the fear of their partner). In most cases, where the victim fears his/her partner they don’t say anything against them; so, first, win their trust and make them believe that you can save them. Ask them to make a video or take photos when the abuser tries to violate them. With that, you can have proof of the abuse, and can prove the abuser guilty in front of the police, the law and authorities and save the victim’s life.
Domestic violence is a crime that people can commit because the victims are not able to come forward and tell the truth about their abusers. That’s why it’s important for us, as humans, to help them and save their lives.
Want to help a victim of domestic violence?
We are a Mental health clinic in east New York that helps victims that suffer from domestic violence, black mailing, dating violence, etc. Contact us on 718-DORAL-55 to get the help you need to save the lives of the victims of domestic abuse.